Do Ladies Prefer Muscular Men?

Over in the Issues of Men forum, Jay is wondering if ladies prefer a muscular guys since working professionals "don't have enough time to workout at gym."

While Detox and Atrous argue that working out keeps guys looking nice and keeps them from being lazy, Lilian disagrees and expresses her own opinions about "manliness."

Na, I dislike men with such grossly exaggerate muscles (Like the competitive bodybuilding) and so does most of my female friends. Ew, major turn off. I think is a must to be broad, I mean,with body not very musculous but tenacious and a bit strong.

Selina also agrees, citing pressure from society, although In Training (who seems to scared to actually use her real name on orkut) offers a different opinion.

no muscle no power

a skinny guy can be a good team member but a muscle man proves to be a good team leader

so to rule u need muscle

Really? I wonder what the feminists would think regarding this?

Note: Speaking of feminists, it looks like they are already stirred up over a forum created by Aka'Diabolic promoting male dominance. Heh.

Why Do Women Show Off Their Skin?

Over in the Men Ask, WOMEN ANSWER forum, Sixthly was bold enough to ask this question.

Do women feel a need to show more & more skin?

Is it getting to an age where you have to show more skin than what one showed in the '90s, simply to get guys' attention?

Since I was also curious about this question myself, I decided to investigate the responses from this post. Ironically, it seems that Diana was offended by the question and sharply replies with:

It's not about getting attention. It's about feeling good about the way we look. Why must you translate the show of skin as an attempt to attract the male species?

Ouch. Sixthly later on asks how would some of these women dress if their were no guys on planet Earth (wouldn't that be boring?). Here are some of the responses below.

Curious: Actually, I'm not sure how I'd dress if there were no males.

I'm not convinced it's about what you wear anyway. Because if it was I'd not have guys chasing after me when I'm at the barn, dressed in some old work cloths, hair tied up in a mess, sweaty because it's so hot and humid, no make up.... I don't get it.... but for some reason guys like that also.

Mari: If there were no males on the planet, then I'd obviously wear no clothes!!!

Suprisingly Sixthly thinks those responses were "so gay," although I think he means the happy version of gay. Or does he mean dumb? Hmm...

The Problem With Love Is...

Swarup has written an excellent poem in "The Problem With Love Is..." forum which has so far received dozens of responses. Here is a snippet for you to preview.

[...] I once had a friend
who grew to be very close to me.
Once when we were sitting at the edge of a swimming pool,
she filled the palm of her hand with some water
and held before me, and said this:
"You see this water carefully contained on my hand?
It symbolizes Love."
This was how I saw it:
As long as you keep your hand caringly open
and allow it to remain there,
it will always be there.
However,
if you attempt to close your fingers round it and try to posses it,
it will spill through the first cracks it finds. [...]

Swarup's poem has received praise from Rashmi, with Venom commenting this as "a first rate interpretation of love" while Jyoti thinks everyone should read this post.

Not everyone is entirely happy with the poem though as Shah goes on to explain that it's okay to have certain demands.

it does'nt sound simple to me at all!! it's remote from practice!! and y?? y shud'nt u expect n demand? if ur love is true it shud fulfill ur expectations n demands... love cant be there under the influence of a fear... that if i demand or expect this love thing may turn wrong for me... i think that if ur love is true.. the one who loves u is true to u... u shud come off in accordence with the expectations ur love makes n u got a right to demand!

Either way it seems this poem is stirring quite a discussion with several members asking Swarup advice on dating, love, etc. He is even later on called the love doctor by Shah because of the number of questions regarding love and dating posed towards Swarup by members.

I wouldn't be surprised if Swarup's scrapbook was filling up, and if anyone has any questions regarding dating, feel free to post a message in his scrapbook.

Do Men Prefer Older Women?

Over in the Women Ask, MEN ANSWER forum, Bubbly wants to know why some men prefer older women and the excuse reason behind it.

After asking if some of these men are "insecure by nature" she received these responses below:

Faisal: Men generally don't prefer older women. In the off chance that some do its mostly because women are more experienced in certain aspects of life and / or are more mature than their younger counterparts.

Ali: older women find young men respectful and obidient, young men can listen to their painful stories, can provide a shoulder to cry on. So they can be connected very well emotionally. Rest is all natural.

Sameer (on page two): older women do not expect much from guys..young girls expect a lot from a guys..trully speaking guys get bored from their expectation...

Danish: Two kinds of guys go for older women. One's who need a 'mother' and ones who seek intelligence and maturity. There's a third category as well but thats more about turn on's than anything else....

From my experience, most of my previous dates have been older than me (by a month or a year) and they are generally more mature in wisdom as well as grace. Although other members saw similar reasons for an arrangement, few thought that such a relationship would lead towards marriage while others commented that relationships like these are only about "the physical."

The Orkut Babe Hunters

(Hat Tip: Fflush(stdthoughts))

It seems that after many months of using Google's service in order to resolve their singlehood issues and find "true happiness," a group known as "The Orkut Babe Hunters," has formed with one purpose in mind--to find date.

Enough of fake messages to gain confidence!
Enough of "wanna do frndz" hot scrapping!
We've had enough, ladies. It's time for the heavy artillery to be brought in! It's time for the Babe Hunters of Orkut to join up, fraternize, and discuss war strategies!!
For, lest we forget, it's still a war we're in right now. So, until you manage to hunt down a babe, you're welcome to join and learn from the masters.

Lest any girls think these guys are half joking (or half baked) they have even established three simple steps on acquiring what they refer to as "the prey."

• First Step: Sighting the Prey
• Second Step: Fixing the Profile
• Third Step: Dropping the bait

The list appears to be a work in progress (so it may get longer) but it seems that Gurpreet has already established a technique which he refers to as "The Trojan Horse." And it seems they have already spotted a victim.

I am not sure if their techniques will work, as I think the Men Ask, WOMEN ANSWER forum (not to mention Dating Point) is probably a better use of one's time and energy.

Do Ladies Enjoy Chest Hair?

After the ladies received an answer to an age old question, it seems that Prasant had to ask this question in the Men Ask, WOMEN ANSWER forum. Ironically when I was younger, my friends asked this question to an older lady so I am not surprised by most of these responses.

• Eva: a chest hair? [...] i hate it, i mean a bit of hair there is ok, but not too much and i think back hair is even worst


• M.: Chest hair is a turn on for me.:) Of course in a reasonable amount.;) Yes... very manly and sexy...mmmm...


• Jaanika: as long as u dont count the ones on ur back to b chest hair... And as long as ur chest hair aint thicker than ur actual hair....


• Nazish: chest hair is a big tyme turn offfff....n so is the hair on the backk


• Jane: I definitely prefer no, or very little, hair on the chest

Fortunately for me, my chest isn't that hairy (at least for now). Unfortunately it seems that Saajid is out of luck in that department, and may have to shave his chest to appease his future love.

Do Guys Prefer Beauty, Or Women With Brains?

That is the question Pragati is asking over in the Women ask, MEN ANSWER forum (they have a counterpart one for guys which I'll post on later).

Pragati wants to know if guys really do prefer a beautiful face over a beautiful mind. Here are some of the responses by some very brave men:

• Raghu: beauty can be instantly admired/appreciated... but it takes a while to appreciate the brains of any person. hence the misconception that guys only appreciate beauty & not brains in a female. if u really dig a li'l deeper, u'll see that most most long-term female friends of guys r those with brains matching the guy's level... & not beauty...


• Chill: beauty n brain is rare and so i will say [...]
  beautiful girl = dumb
  unattractive girl = intelligent
  beautiful + intelligent = Diva..


• Turtle: i dont prefer beauty to brains . id rather have a plain looking girl with a brain and a good heart than a total knockout thats stupid or a bitch . but i do draw the line at ugly there only room in any relatioship for one ugly person aand thats me


• Achal (page two): i guess its natures way of bringing together the best genes together to same person . beautiful woman + intelligent man = beautiful and intelligent kids? or progressive species

Although most of the answers were pretty much "beauty before brains" or "beauty with brains," Lulla (on page 3) seems to be motivated more by mental abilities than good looks. He even doesn't mind a girl with a few extra pounds.

As for me, I agree with Pulkit (on page 1)--beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

Can Men Be Homemakers?

"Mr. Hyde" (a very unique, funny and interesting person) has whether or not men can be homemakers in the Indian Woman's Issues forum. Responses range from laughter to debate, but here are some of the best responses towards that question:

• Ruchi: Men are also capable of being perfectly good homemakers...but first the mindset needs to be changed. When people see certain jobs as "women's work", men are not supposed to do them. But only if all work is considered equal, and even men take interest in sharing the house-work etc, will Indian men try to be good homemakers (Source*)



• Anjana: Homemaking according to me is a full time job and will need the person to stay at home(with servants or without).It's an unpaid profession.
  
  Men can definitely be homemakers but the society does not look good upon them but if a woman is a homemaker it's fine..So it's been a woman's profession from time unknown.. (Source*)



• Nabanita: When both r working, both should share the household chores....but depends on who does which chore better....if the wife is better at cooking, the husband can do the grocery shopping....there must be a balance between the amount of work done by each....each and every work cannot be divided into 50-50 and shared equally.....can the husband make the crying infant quiet as soon as the mother?....some things women r expert at...so men can help out in other chore....like ironing clothes... (Source*)

I think Nabanita has the most realistic view, especially in America. I am not sure if this is a cultural, religious or general concept, but it seems that "Stay at home Dads" are often frowned upon in society, and are referred to as losers in mainstream America.

Single And Loving It!

For all of those people who joined Orkut for reasons other than dating, "I'm Single and I Love it!" is the forum for you! Started by Sada Sivam, this forum has almost 3,000 members!

And if you were wondering why these people would desire not to cuddle next to the (future) one that they love, Ain (along with others) has an explanation of why:

• Ain: I would say i dont have to be answerable to anyone. i am FREEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE and i love it.



• AsadBlinks: whatever u earn is yours n you spend it on your ownself...being married is like being handcuffed



• Qasim: freeedom! coming home late at night with no one to question u.. no nagging/complaining :D



• Arun: One song sums it all up...Bob Marley- No woman No cry!

Although dating is encouraged on Orkut, I have my own "concerns" about meeting the right person online (although some people have inside Orkut).

Anyways, I wonder if any of these users will still be single after say five years? Anyone want to take any wagers?

Orkut Romance Anyone?

I've stumbled across two dating sites while inside Orkut. There are more, but most of them are "pretty dark" and would not be appropriate for some people. Anyways, here are two that some people might consider visiting.

(Dating Point) Dating Point for the couples and those who are looking and want to share their feelings and find friends/partners/dates -online.

Dating Point has two simple rules. No spamming and no porn (violators will be shot get banned). The community was started by Riz and has grown to well over 750 members. Although I've only heard of one success story of meeting the right person on Orkut, this may be the forum for you if you are searching for "the one."

The second forum, although similar, is focused more on a certain group of individuals.

(Christian Singles) A gathering place for Christian singles who are looking for fellowship or wanting advice in the arena of relationships and dating.

Feel free to ask for advice, share experiences, or ask for prayer...We're here to help!

Started by Craig this forum has grown well over 1200 members. Craig seems to have opened the place up to married people as well. Let me rephrase that--for married people to give advice as well (as Craig may not like the idea of married people pursuing dates within his forum). Heh.

Dating Advice?

An anonymous user is asking for advice on how to win over a girl who is giving him the cold shoulder. I think Dating Point would probably be of good use over here.