I would like to know the answer too. Anyone here know what is the answer to your question. I'll do some poking around and get back to you if I find an answer. You should email the people at Medifast as they probably could give you help..
People who feel inadequate will sometimes try to "level" those who have what they want. Your weight loss success poses a threat to the status quo... it's sometimes not even conscious. You see it a lot post-op in friends, family... when you are no longer "the fat one.".
Sucks. If I was PMSing I'd say something like....
"Hmmm yes getting my guts rearranged, stomach severed, changing my lifestyle, eating &.
Is soooo easy... what exactly did you do?".
I hate hearing people say that gbs is the "easy way out". I'm only 4 weeks out and none of it has been easy. My mother-in-law keeps telling me that she wishes she could have it (she's a size 10 or 12). That really gets on my nerves...
Personally you've got to remember that unlike you're friends in this life you cannot choose your family. As for you sisters comments, forgive her as she is only being human. Don't ever allow the comments of others to dictate your mental attitude. This entire journey has given me an opportunity to concentrate on me and my personal goal and to no longer sweat the little shit in life..
For you success and peace.
When I hear that BS, I ask them: "If there was a machine invented which would give you a 40 minute workout in 2 minutes, would you refuse to use it and continue spending 40 minutes.
?" That usually shuts them up...
I had the same issues with both my sisters but especially the one closest to my age. We are a year apart. My 2 sisters were both very skinny most their lives and very active but as they grew older and had kids both put on alot of weight but I w as still bigger. I have always been a bigger build even when I was thin. Anyway as soon as I decided to have.
The middle one had to go on a Medifast diet cause she did not want me to ever be thinner than her. She lost 60 lbs which was great but after a year she quit being so diligent and by 2 yrs I had lost 200 lbs. I was a great deal thinner than both of them and they hated it. The younger one wasn't so mean or rude about it the but the other one was. She hated it when I got compliments and then she started in with "I took the easy way out". I can't tell you how many times I let that get to me especially since after my gbs and my panniculectomy I had major, life-threatening complications.
THis of course started my sis on her role again and finally in my defense my cousin just ripped them a new one (i'm kind of shy and not great at being confrontational-she on the other hand never had a problem speaking her mind lol) She asked them how in the world did they think undergoing major surgery-not once but twice- with major complications that threatened my life was an easy way out. Neither of them had ever had any type of.
She also told them this.
Is no miracle cure. That if I hadnt changed my lifestyle and exercised I would not have attained the success I did and that it wasn't easy. Last year alone by the time of the reunion I"d had 4 surgeries in a 7 mos period. AFter that they were speechless and although they didn't apologize they were very obviously put in their places and I've not heard that out of them since. It comes down to jealousy. I was always the fat one and now they are and they don't like it but they will have to live with it like I did for 40 years if they don't make the necessary changes that I did so that I could have a life worth living.
I"m determined to never be the fat one again :) Out of 7 kids of which I was always the fattest I am now the thinnest of all 7 which feels wonderful :)..
Yup it's not all easy fun and games this gastric bypass. I can remember a time though when I wasn't ready for.
And I thought GBS in different terms. I even asked myself as I started this journey "why would I have this.
If I am still going to have to eat healthy and.
Regularly, that is all the stuff I have to do to.
Without the surgery". As time passed and I explored what was best for me and my health obviously I came up with the answer to my question. You also came to the same conclusion that the.
Was what was best for you (we prob. took different roads but got to the same destination) and you took that step..
You know your sister better than any of us, but I am guessing that you getting smaller and healthier is really rocking her sense of self identity. Functional or not we all fall into certain categories or roles in our family. When we start redefining our role it really impacts those around us sometimes positively and sometimes well not so much....
I think it strikes a nerve with us when people say that we took the easy way out because we know.
Wasn't easy and we have been stereotyped as heavy people for so long that it feels like another blow to us when people say... well you are only thin now because you had the.
And oh I wish I was fat enough to have the.
Really I have to roll my eyes and be sassy as I say "whatever"!.
Remember this is her baggage not yours. You know what you did was right for you. I don't know your relationship with her but is she someone you could say something like... "really you think it was easy?" or " I guess in your eyes I cheated, but I am really happy with the choice I made to be healthier"... or "stick it where the sun doesn't shine!" or "Are you feeling ok about yourself because this seems more about your weight and less about mine" ok ok I could go on and on.. But I won't..
I don't have any sisters, but from what I have heard from friends over the years this is typical sister behavior. I doubt this is the first time jealousy has reared it's ugly head in your family. I love coffee6's comment - could not have said it better myself. In any case, own your success, work your process and celebrate your victories. No amount of snarkiness can take those away from you unless you let it...
My sisters have both been supportive and great I'm happy to say..but my youngest sister works very hard at keeping her weight down and goes to the gym regularly. so when she asked my what my goal weight is I told her I'm starting at 140 and will see..she said are you sure that is not too low..when I said dont you weigh 130 or 135 she said yes..and I told her..you are 3 or 4 inches taller than me..what makes you think 140 is too little for me to weigh? silence!..
Your always having bee the biggest gave her a sense ofno matter what ever else, was wronng in her life, she was still smaller than you. You have pulled that security blanket out from under her and she is grasping for justification for letting that get away from her. Try sharing some of your new nutritional dietary selection and regimes for her to try and she will seehow easy it is. The competition may even help her lose a few pounds in addition to better appreciation for your new lifestyle...